Congratulations! Becoming engaged is a special moment that you and your fiancée will treasure for years to come. After the initial excitement of being engaged wears off, it is time to begin planning a wedding that reflects you and your fiancée.
The first order of business for you and your fiancée is determining a range of dates. The exact date will be determined once the venue is secured. North Alabama’s Guide to Stunning Wedding Venues will help in your search to finding your dream wedding location. Does a small intimate ceremony or a large bash better suit you and your fiancée’s personalities? Is there a particular season that you both enjoy and would you prefer an indoor or outdoor ceremony? Other factors to take in consideration to avoid any potential conflicts are holidays, sporting events, or other family activities.
While planning a wedding should be a fun experience, it can be stressful. Our hope is that this checklist will help to guide newly engaged couples through the process of planning the perfect day.
Upon Engagement
- Set a wedding date
- Meet with family members to discuss financial responsibilities
- Establish a wedding budget and create a spreadsheet to track spending
- Decide on a wedding style
- Reserve ceremony and reception venues
- Choose your wedding party
- Book a wedding planner (if desired)
- Start on guest list
1 Year to 9 Months Before
- Register for gifts
- Secure your officiant
- Reserve caterer, cake baker, florist, ceremony musicians, reception band or DJ and photographer / videographer
- Shop for wedding gown, headpiece, veil, jewelry, and shoes
- Set appointments with make up artist and hair stylist
- Book wedding night accommodation
6 Months Before
- Have engagement photos taken
- Select and order wedding bands
- Send save the date cards to guest list
- Reserve accommodations for guests
- Make reservations for honeymoon
- Shop for bridesmaids’ attire including, dresses, shoes, and accessories and men’s formal wear
- Purchase thank you notes and maintain a list of all gifts received and acknowledged
4 Months Before
- Finalize the guest list
- Send engagement photos and announcement to local newspaper
- Select and order wedding stationary
- Select ceremony necessities such as unity ceremony, flower girl and ring bearer, aisle and alter décor
- Purchase reception and necessities such as place cards, cocktail napkins, flowers, cake top and toasting flutes, decorations and centerpieces
3 Months Before
- Address Invitations
- Weight invitation to determine proper postage and purchase postage
- Arrange for wedding day transportation to ceremony, reception and accommodations
- Plan the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
- Purchase rehearsal dinner invitations
- Finalize honeymoon plans and confirm all reservations and required paperwork
2 Months Before
- Finalize arrangements with vendors including caterer, baker, florist, ceremony musicians, reception band or DJ, photographer, and videographer
- Mail invitations to arrive six weeks before the wedding date
- Keep track of RSVP cards received
- Finalize ceremony order with officiant
- Order wedding programs
- Purchase gifts for members of the wedding party, parents, hostesses, etc.
- Purchase wedding gift for fiancé
- Determine reception seating arrangement and prepare place cards
- Mail rehearsal dinner invitations
- Write wedding vows, toasts, and speeches
1 Month Before
- Get marriage license
- Have final fitting for wedding gown and bridesmaids’ gowns
- Confirm duties with helpers including personal attendant, day-of coordinators, set up crew and decorators, guest book attendant, gift table attendant, host and hostess, punch, cake, and coffee servers, and clean-up crew
- Begin work on financial and legal details including joint or new checking accounts, insurance policies and beneficiaries, wills and prenuptial agreement (if desired)
- Gather forms for making an official name change
2 Weeks Before
- Finalize playlist, including the first dance
- Confirm the pictures your photographer should capture
- Have a wedding hairstyle trial run
1 Week Before
- Confirm with all services and reservations
- Confirm arrangements and attendance with caterer and venues
- Pack for wedding night and honeymoon
- Pack items for the ceremony and reception sites
- Pick up wedding gown and groom’s formal wear and check for fit
- Have attendants pick up attire and check for fit
1 Day Before
- Give marriage license to best man or maid or honor and ask they bring to ceremony
- Have all fees and gratuities ready for distribution
- Rehearse ceremony
- Enjoy rehearsal dinner
- Get a good night’s sleep
Enjoy your wedding day!
Wedding Expenses – Who Pays for What
With today’s weddings, it is common for both families to contribute to the wedding. Have a heartfelt talk with both sets of parents to see what they are comfortable with financially.
Wedding costs, by tradition are divided as follows:
The Bride (or family) Pays For:
- Invitations and announcements
- Wedding gown
- Photography / Videography
- Reception
- Flowers for the church, attendants, and reception
- Music at the church and reception
- All rented equipment
- Limousine for the bride and cars for transportation
- Groom’s wedding ring
- Groom’s gift
- Gifts for the attendants, parents, and hostesses
- Lodging (if necessary) for out-of-town bridesmaids
The Groom (or family) Pays For:
- Bride’s engagement and wedding rings
- Marriage license
- Officiant’s Fee
- Bride’s Bouquet
- Corsages for mothers and grandmothers
- Boutonnieres and ties for men of the wedding party
- Wedding gift for bride
- Honeymoon
- Gifts for best man and ushers
- Lodging (if necessary) for out-of-town ushers
- Rehearsal Dinner